Happy Valentines Day!
It’s always weird to have holidays in the middle of the week, but we are celebrating love tonight by going out to dinner at what I am sure is the only place in town without a prix-fix menu (those are the worst!) and I am excited to take the evening off from cooking. I feel grateful every day to be in a relationship that makes me feel loved and secure, but I wanted to take a moment to focus on something that is even more important to me than being with a partner/spouse/etc. which is self-love and care.
Over and over again I hear in interviews, books, and conversations with friends how important it is to learn to love yourself before you can love others, and I couldn’t agree more with the sentiment that being in love with yourself is the key to experiencing true happiness and fulfillment. Last night I had the pleasure of spending “Galentine’s Day” with a few girlfriends at a small women’s gathering focused on self-love through Pineapple, a community I am honored to be a part of here in DC. We spent a couple of hours chatting about the importance of self-love and discussing how we can foster more of it to benefit not only ourselves but also those around us. I’ve been reflecting a lot on those conversations today and wanted share a few of my favorite self-care mantras in the name of L O V E.
:: Eating Well ::
If there is one truth I know for sure, it is that what we put into our bodies has a direct impact on how we feel and think. As someone who struggled with severe depression and anxiety for many years in my early adulthood, I have learned that my body and my health is the greatest gift and by treating it well I am expressing love for myself in it’s truest form. Sometimes choosing health in every situation is a major challenge, but I have never regretted the choice to give my body what it needs to feel nourished.
:: Saying No ::
It took me a long time to accept that some of the things that make me happy are vastly different than my friends, family and peers. Being strong enough to say no to things that I know aren’t going to fulfill me or make me feel good is one of my greatest accomplishments and I feel proud every time I stand up for myself and what I want (or don’t want).
:: Trusting My Gut ::
Last year I fell in love with The Lively Show Podcast and everything Jess discusses about the power of intuition and learning to live your life with intention. I fiercely believe that learning to listen to ourselves is a form of self-love and care and we are doing a disservice by staying in situtuations, relationships, jobs etc. that our gut is telling us to leave (this is toxic!).
:: Comparison is the Thief of Joy ::
This quote by Theodore Roosevelt has been my mantra for years and I keep it in my back pocket every time I start to compare anything about myself to another person. In this world filled with social media and the perception of perfection, sometimes it’s nice to remind ourselves that we steal joy from ourselves every time we assume someone else has it better than we do.